a blog i complained about found me complaining about them even though I didn’t tag it and they ‘corrected me’ but that’s not correcting
um. saying that any trans person is ‘quotation marks [sexuality] quotation marks’ instead of ‘[sexuality]’ just implies they are not the GENDER THEY SAY THEY ARE. JUST BEING A MULTI-SEXUALITY PORN BLOG DOESN’T CHANGE IT. THE POINT IS YOU PUT IT IN QUOTATIONS, WHICH IS BASICALLY SARCASTICALLY SAYING YOU DON’T BELIEVE IN THEM BEING THAT GENDER, IT’S FUCKING RUDE AND TRIGGERING DON’T FUCKING ‘CORRECT’ ME ON IT
putting “gay” in quotation marks about ftms with men is like putting “woman” in quotation marks when talking about transwomen, it’s downgrading and it just means you don’t believe them to be what they are. it’s like putting in brackets that it’s straight. And from a fucking porn blog means it’s both downgrading and fetishizing.
I think there’s been a massive misunderstanding here.
First of all, I’m sorry I misunderstood what you said in your original post about us. I thought you were angry that we were a gay FTM porn blog, and that you thought we didn’t include straight FTMs, or something like that. I had no idea that what you had a problem with was the quotation marks around the word “gay”, in the phrase ’ “gay” FTM porn ‘, in the sidebar of our blog.
But of course now I know, and I’m sorry that you were triggered by that.
However, I just want to let you know that those quotation marks aren’t being used in the context you’ve taken them in.
The quotation marks don’t mean that the gender identities of the people being posted in this blog aren’t being respected. The quotation marks come from this: we don’t just post FTMs on this blog. We post other transmasculine people as well. Transmasculine people who may not identify as male. We felt we’d be erasing their identities by calling this blog solely a gay FTM porn blog. That’s all it means. “Gay” as in, guy on guy, but sometimes guy on genderqueer transmasculine person. The term is used loosely in order to be inclusive of those transmasculine folk who don’t identify as male, and that’s why it’s in quotations.
I honestly thought that all of this would be clear from what I said in my previous reply to you, even if I did misunderstand what it was that you were upset about. But no worry, maybe you weren’t able to read it in its entirety, for some reason. That’s why I’m responding again, to clarify things further.
Maybe you were under the impression that because this is a porn blog, it’s run in a mainstream fashion, by some fetishistic heterosexual cisgender guy or something, like what is often the case with trans girl porn..
But that’s not the case with this blog (or FTMs with Femmes, or Transmasculine XXX.)
The guy who created & runs this blog (hi, I’m Donnie!) is a queer feminist trans man.
Respecting people’s identities is really important to me.
I work really hard to ensure that the identities of the people whose photos I post on this blog are acknowledged and respected.
Gay, in quotation marks, coming from me, would never mean “these dudes aren’t really dudes, so this porn isn’t really gay, and therefore I’m only putting this in quotation marks”. Never in a million years would it mean that, coming from me. Because by doing so, I’d not only be invalidating the gender identities of all the awesome transmasculine porn stars and amateur porn stars that I post here - I’d be invalidating my own gender identity too. And not just because my naked ass happens to be strewn throughout the blog.. lol
Once again, I’m sorry you were triggered, but I hope you now understand that those quotation marks don’t mean what you thought.
I apologize for responding publicly, however, I felt it was important that our audience see it as well, in case anyone else out there is unclear as to the intentions and values of the person who created and runs this blog.